Yesterday, my husband asked me to “Go steady” with him…
“But, we’re already married,” I laughed.
“But, I’ve never given my class ring to another girl. Or woman. And when I saw it at my mom’s place, I knew there was only one person I’d ever want to go steady with. You.”
“Do you know that no other boy has ever given me his class ring?”
“I did not know that. I figured your folks probably had to take out a second mortgage on the house for crates upon crates of yarn and nail polish.”
“Oh my sisters got the rings, but me, not one. Nope. Never.”
“Well, will you go steady with me Lisa?”
“I’d love to!”
I have to admit I was a little giddy. After all, I had never experienced such a thing. To some extent receiving a class ring was a right of passage.
The ceremony included the careful unfolding of a triple layer of newspaper upon the dining room table, a skein of yarn, and a couple bottles of nail polish in your color choice. If the boyfriend was present, this ritual probably included my father cleaning his guns on the living room floor, for good measure.
Once the appropriate amount of yarn was carefully measured, it was intricately wrapped around the underside of the ring. Then it was slathered with layers upon layers of nail polish to secure the yarn in place.
Oh how I wanted to partake in my own ring wrapping ceremony! And you know, talk with my hands more often so that everyone would notice. However, of the two serious boyfriends I had during my three years of high school, no class rings were bequeathed to me.
Apparently, I would’ve gotten one of them, but big-dumb-dummy-girlfriend-before-me threw it into a field upon breaking up with my beau. WHAT? Didn’t she know the cardinal rule of going steady? You never, ever, under any circumstances destroy the poor boy’s ring! No matter the reason for the break up, it was understood that class rings cost a pretty penny and upon breaking up shall be forthwith returned to it’s rightful owner. Sigh.
After high school graduation, I never gave the absence of a class ring on my finger another thought, until yesterday when after all these years, I finally got mine.
“It’s way too big for you, Darlin’. You can put the yarn and polish on it iffin’ ya wannna,” my southern boyfriend said with a smile.
“No. It’s too pretty. I’ll just wear it on my thumb. In the house, so I don’t lose it.”
“If I had somehow known you back then, would you have said yes when I asked you to go steady with me?”
“My love, as the poet once said, I’d choose you again. Over and over. In a hundred lifetimes, in a hundred worlds. In any version of reality. I’d find you and I’d choose you.”
Oh my friend, if you’re one of the millions of people who are unsure about how loved you are, please allow me to dispel any notions you may have of this lie. Because the fact is, you are loved but there are innumerable reasons why it’s sometimes hard to believe it.
But, we must believe it, in the core of who we are. Otherwise, we suffer needlessly.
Broken relationships, inner hurts, lies we believe, and emotional wounds can all contribute to what we believe about ourselves. Even our own bad decisions have an impact on what we believe.
When I wasn’t ever given a class ring, I never considered that it wasn’t my fault. I concluded that I simply wasn’t good enough. I’ve since learned that wasn’t true at all. Boyfriend #1 never got a class ring because his folks couldn’t afford it. Boyfriend #2 lost his class ring because of the reasons mentioned above.
Of this you can be certain; there’s a Love so pure, so steady, and so extravagant that no class ring, no diamond, or diadem is worthy to be compared to it. It’s unchanging and dependable. It took place upon a cross, with a ring of thorns about Jesus’ head.
Give thanks to the God of Heaven, for His steadfast love endures forever!
Endures forever. That means He’s never going to break up with you. He’s already given you the greatest demonstration of His love that anyone could ever give; His very life.
Accept it. God is crazy in love with you and He’s not about to terminate the relationship. In fact, He protects the relationship, delights in you, and sings you love songs.
The Lord your God is with you. The mighty warrior who saves. He will take great delight in you. He will renew you in His love. He will rejoice over you with songs of joy.
I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you to me in righteousness, and justice, in love and compassion.
Isn’t that amazing news? He is going to go steady with you forever and ever. He is that friend who stays closer than a brother. He can be relied upon in every situation. He’ll never betray you, leave you, dishonor you, or give you a single reason not to trust Him.
He will always cherish you, do right by you, and take good care of you.
Write it on your heart, you are so very, very loved and nothing can separate you from it!